Thursday, October 20, 2011

Mind and Body — Battling mood swings **

Mood swings are common often due to stress or because of hormonal changes that affect your levels of neurotransmitters (chemical messengers in the brain). Everyone responds differently to these changes. Some people experience heightened emotions, both good and bad; others feel more depressed or anxious.
There is a reason they are called mood swings — they can swing to exhilarating highs and down to depressing lows. I'm irritable all the time; I find myself flying off the handle at the slightest provocation. Talk it out. Pour out your feelings and thoughts and let them express their own — just putting your concerns into words often helps dissipate them.

Bond with those who matter. Spend quality time with people who matter and nurture your relationship. Strengthen your connection now so you can really be there for one another in times of lows and well as highs.
If you're single, nurture your relationship with your friends and family. It'll provide vital support. Is food a contributing factor in my mood swings? It can be — follow these basic guidelines to better control the extreme highs and lows.

Keep your blood sugar up. Low blood sugar — caused by long gaps between meals — can lead to mood crashes. Eat frequent, smaller meals comprising carbohydrates and proteins, six times a day (instead of three), for longer lasting blood sugar and sustained mood highs.
Avoid a sugar rush. Limit the consumption of simple sugar and caffeine. Chocolate, candy, soft drinks, tea and coffee will give your blood sugar a quick spike — but bring you down equally fast. Eat regularly. Remember, eating at regular intervals will make you feel better physically and emotionally. This could help in moderating your mood and providing the all-important nourishment for your body and mind.

How can I manage my mood swings?
Try to remind yourself that emotional upheaval during periods of stress is normal, and make a conscious effort to nurture yourself to help keep you on an even keel.

Is ‘It's time for I, Me, Myself!' selfish? It's not! This is probably the only time in your life when you can put yourself first without feeling guilty. Do the things that make you feel good. Curl up for a nap, soak in a warm bath, go for a walk, get a massage, or watch a movie with a friend. Taking time alone to do something just for you is sometimes the best pick-me-up.



-Savi

Eliminate the problem **

Here are some simple ways to help the body get rid of waste “I feel stuffed, gassy and clogged up. Why am I so constipated?” It's not much of a consolation, but constipation is a common problem. It can be a tough condition to deal with, but deal with it you must. Here are some tried and tested ways to combat constipation and alleviate your symptoms.

 1. Eat fibre Fibre adds bulk to the food and is an all-important source of roughage. The roughage component in fibre aids the digestive system, helping the body's elimination process, and is, therefore, referred to as “nature's broom”!

 2. Drink water Water regulates body temperature, assists the digestive system, transports nutrients and eliminates waste from the body. On an average one needs 8 to 12 glasses of water every day.

 3. Indulge wisely When you are in a mood to indulge — cut back on quantities and savour the food in small portions. This is far better than going on an all-out binge which can cause indigestion.

 4. Avoid large meals Big meals are hard to digest and can make you feel sleepy. When you consume six to eight small, healthy meals every day, your body needs more calories to break down the food, thereby helping to raise your body metabolism.

 5. Sit down and eat slowly; chew well It's easy to overeat when meals are grabbed on the run, or while standing in front of the refrigerator. Eat slowly and chew well to give your body time to release the enzymes that tell your brain you've had enough.

 6. Try reflexology Try a simple reflexology treatment at home. Ask your spouse or a friend to massage the arches of your feet (these are the parts which correspond to the foot reflexology zones for the digestive system) in a circular, clockwise motion, for about five minutes on each foot.

 7. Watch the clock! The later you eat, the harder it gets to digest the food. If you have to have a late dinner, eat a small snack in advance, that way you won't be ravenous at dinner time. Give yourself two or three hours to digest any meal before going to bed.

 8. Don't overeat if you are stressed out Avoid eating as an antidote to emotional pain. Whether it is alcohol or food, excess of any kind leads to digestion problems and weight gain.

Sunday, December 26, 2010

What is Love?

It depends. There are as many loves as there are people. Love is a hierarchy, from the lowest rung to the highest, from sex to superconsciousness. There are many many layers, many planes of love. It all depends on you. If you are existing on the lowest rung, you will have a totally different idea of love than the person who is existing on the highest rung. Adolf Hitler will have one idea of love, Gautam Buddha another; and they will be diametrically opposite, because they are at two extremes.At the lowest, love is a kind of politics, power politics. Wherever love is contaminated by the idea of domination, it is politics. Whether you call it politics or not is not the question, it is political. And millions of people never know anything about love except this politics -- the politics that exists between husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. It is politics, the whole thing is political: you want to dominate the other, you enjoy domination. And love is nothing but politics sugar-coated, a bitter pill sugar-coated. You talk about love but the deep desire is to exploit the other. And I am not saying that you are doing it deliberately or consciously. People are falling in love with horses, dogs, animals, machines, things. Why? Because to be in love with human beings has become an utter hell, a continuous conflict -- nagging, always at each other's throats. This is the lowest form of love. Nothing is wrong with it if you can use it as a steppingstone , if you can use it as a meditation. If you can watch it, if you try to understand it, in that very understanding you will reach another rung, you will start moving upwards. Only at the highest peak, when love is not a relationship any more, when love becomes a state of your being, the lotus opens totally and great perfume is released -- but only at the highest peak. At its lowest, love is just a political relationship. At its highest, love is a religious state of consciousness. I love you too, Buddha loves, Jesus loves, but their love demands nothing in return. Their love is given for the sheer joy of giving it; it is not a bargain. Hence the radiant beauty of it, hence the transcendental beauty of it. It surpasses all the joys that you have known. When I talk about love, I am talking about love as a state. It is unaddressed: you don't love this person or that person, you simply love. You are love. Rather than saying that you love somebody, it will be better to say you are love. So whosoever is capable ofpartaking, can partake. Whosoever is capable of drinking out of your infinite sources of being, you are available -- you are available unconditionally. That is possible only if love becomes more and more meditative. `Medicine' and `meditation' come from the same root. Love as you know it is a kind of disease: it needs the medicine of meditation. If it passes through meditation, it is purified. And the more purified it is, the more ecstatic.Nancy was having coffee with Helen.Nancy asked, "How do you know your husband loves you?""He takes out the garbage every morning.""That's not love. That's good housekeeping.""My husband gives me all the spending money I need.""That's not love. That's generosity.""My husband never looks at other women.""That's not love. That's poor vision.""John always opens the door for me.""That's not love. That's good manners.""John kisses me even when I've eaten garlic and I have curlers in my hair.""Now, that's love."Everybody has their own idea of love. And only when you come to the state where all ideas about love have disappeared, where love is no more an idea but simply your being, then only will you know its freedom. Then love is God. Then love is the ultimate truth. Let your love move through the process of meditation. Watch it: watch the cunning ways of your mind, watch your power-politics. And nothing else except continuous watching and observing is going to help. When you say something to your woman or your man, look at it: what is the unconscious motive? Why are you saying it? Is there some motive? Then what is it? Be conscious of that motive, bring it to consciousness -- because this is one of the secret keys for transforming your life: anything that becomes conscious disappears. Your motives remain unconscious, that's why you remain in their grip. Make them conscious, bring them to light, and they will disappear. It is as if you pull up a tree and bring the roots to the sunlight: they will die, they can exist only in the darkness of the soil. Your motives also exist only in the darkness of your unconsciousness. So the only way to transform your love is to bring all the motivations from the unconscious into the conscious. Slowly slowly, those motives will die. And when love is unmotivated, then love is the greatest thing that can ever happen to anybody. Then love is something of the ultimate, of the beyond.That is the meaning when Jesus says, "God is love." I say to you: Love is God. God can be forgotten, but don't forget love -- because it is the purification of love that will bring you to God. If you forget about God completely, nothing is lost. But don't forget love, because love is the bridge. Love is the process of alchemical change in your consciousness.

Friday, July 2, 2010

Death...!

You think about death and you become disturbed by small things: a headache, an ant crawling on your body. You become distracted by such small things, small discomforts -- and you talk about death. Maybe you don't know what death is; maybe you have only heard the name. And you have seen people dying, but you yourself have never seen death. In fact, when a person dies you see him Lying in repose -- silent, relaxed, with no discomfort. You think death is not a discomfort? You are seeing only a dead person; you have not seen his inner misery, you have not seen his inner conflict. You have not seen his inner struggle with death. You have not seen his inner anguish and turmoil. You just see the dead body -- painted, dressed well, washed, cleaned.




Only a person who has enjoyed his life becomes capable of enjoying his death. And if you are capable of enjoying your death, you have defeated death. Then there is no more birth for you and no more death for you -- you have learnt the lesson.




Live deeply, live totally, live wholly, so when death comes and knocks at your door you are ready -- ready like a ripe fruit to drop. Just a small breeze comes and the fruit drops; sometimes even without the breeze the fruit drops from its own weight and ripeness. Death should be like that. And the readiness has to come through living.




The secret is, start living more fully, more totally. Be more alert so that you can find within yourself something that is unreachable by death. That is the only shelter, the only security, the only safety. And if you want to help your friends and family, let them become aware of this secret.




While you are alive, be so alive that even death when it comes cannot kill you. A really alive person transcends death. Death happens only to dead people. Let me repeat it: Death happens only to dead people; who are already dead, only to those people does death happen. A really alive person transcends death, goes beyond death. Death comes, but misses the target. How can you kill a person like Buddha? How can you kill a person like Jesus? How can you kill Krishna with his flute on his lips? -- impossible. Death itself will start dancing around him! His life is so abundant that death itself will fall in love with him.




Because of our mind we always divide everything into opposite polarities. Delusion and enlightenment, night and day, birth and death, they are all one process but the mind cannot conceive it. It is intrinsically incapable of conceiving of the oneness of life and death, of light and darkness.




When death knocks at your door, all your certainties will be simply riddles and foolish. Don't cling to any certainty. Life is uncertain -- its very nature is uncertain. And an intelligent man always remains uncertain.

A man of realization knows there is no death. Death is a fiction, you have never died. Yes, you have changed your form many times. You have changed your house many times, many times. But you have never died. Have you ever seen yourself dying? It is always somebody else who dies.




The whole function of the master is to create such energy, such a magnetic force that you are pulled in and slowly, slowly start disappearing. And a point comes when you have become one with existence. This I call real death.




Birth and death are simply devices, because neither birth is true nor death is true. We have been before birth, so how can birth be true? And we will be after death, so how can death be true? Only one thing is true: the consciousness that comes with you through birth and goes with you through death — perhaps birth is a door, and death too! Perhaps they are the same door, just your direction is different.




At the moment of death all your knowledge of the world will be lost into thin air. Only one thing will go with you, and that one thing is being constantly ignored — that is your self-knowledge, your self-realization. In fact, this is the only ignorance — ignoring yourself.




It is always death that comes before your desires are fulfilled. Even if you live for a thousand years your desires are not going to be fulfilled.




Life is spread out over a long time -- seventy years, one hundred years. Death is intense because it is not spread out -- it is in a single moment. Life has to pass one hundred years or seventy years, it cannot be so intense. Death comes in a single moment; it comes whole, not fragmentary. It will be so intense you cannot know anything more intense. But if you are afraid, if before death comes you have escaped, if you have become unconscious because of the fear, you have missed one of the golden opportunities, the golden gate. If your whole life you have been accepting things, when death comes, patiently, passively you will accept and enter into it without any effort to escape. If you can enter death passively, silently, without any effort, death disappears. When Krishna, Christ, Buddha, Mahavir say you are deathless, they are not talking about a doctrine, they are talking about their own experience.

This can happen here in this camp also, because samadhi is death, dhyan is death, meditation is death. Many times there will be moments when you will suddenly feel you are dying. Don't escape, allow it to happen. If you allow it to happen, death has gone, death is there no more, and the inner flame, beginningless, endless, has come into being. It has always been there, now you can feel it. So this should be the sutra. With fear, hate, jealousy, anything whatsoever, don't create a problem out of it. Accept it, allow it, pass through it, and you will defeat all suffering, all death. And you will become a Jaina- a victorious one.






You die in misery. Only a few people die blissfully. And when death becomes a bliss, it is a samadhi. When death is a relaxation...real relaxation. Deep inside you surrender, you welcome. You have known life, now you want to know death also. You have lived life, you have enjoyed it. A great trust has arisen in you about life -- and you know death is the culmination of life, the crescendo. It must be beautiful! When the whole journey has been beautiful, why not the goal? There is no reason to be afraid. When the whole journey has been such a tremendous joy, why not the end? It is the culmination. You have come home. You welcome, you are ready to embrace death. You relax, you simply slip into death.

And that's the moment! If you can die without any fight, you don't die -- and you are never born again. You have simply slipped out of the body confinements -- of the world. You live! -- you live eternally. But then you live as an unembodied existence, with no limitations, with no boundaries. Body gives you a boundary. Death takes away all boundaries from you. Body gives you a definition, makes you a man or a woman, makes you ugly or beautiful, makes you intelligent or unintelligent, makes you this and that -- body gives you definition. Death takes all definitions away. It simply leaves life undefined.

Life undefined is what God is. But to know this death you will have to know life well. So if you can accept my suggestion: next time when a beautiful moment passes by, think in terms of life -- "What a beautiful moment to live and dance and be alive!" Then one day when death comes, you will say the same to death: "What a beautiful moment to die!"

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

What is the Essence of Patience?

Patience has been exploited by people. There has been poverty for centuries and people have been told just to be patient, "It is a test of your trust in God." They have been told just to be patient, "It is only a question of a few years and then you will be entering into paradise."

Patience has been used as part of an exploitation of people in every field, but patience itself is a beautiful quality. You should not allow your patience to be exploited. But to be patient, to me means trust -- trust in nature, trust in existence, trust in yourself. Things are going to be better every day; whatever happens, your patience finds in it something better for you. It is a very great alchemy; it changes suffering into blessing. It is a great instrument in your hands, you just have to understand that the instrument has to be used by you, not by others on you. There are continuous changes in life -- life is a flux.

Heraclitus says, "You cannot step twice in the same river."
I say to you, "You cannot even step once in the same river."

The river is continuously moving... There are ups, there are downs, there are days and there are nights. Patience consists of seeing things in a way that everything becomes a joy to you. For example, you can see that every day has been sandwiched between two dark nights. That will give you good misery and sadness -- what a life it is... just a small day and two big, dark nights.

A man of understanding will see that every night is so small between two beautiful sunny days. Life is the same -- your outlook changes. There are people who will not look at the roseflower, they will look at the thorns. They will be in deep despair that existence cannot even produce roses without thorns, but they are paying more attention to thorns than to roses.

A man of understanding will love the rose, and will take the thorn as a protection for the rose. It is a protection; the same rosebush is supplying juice to both -- to the rose and to the thorn. The thorn must have some natural function. Its function is to protect the rose -- it is a soldier, a guard.

Once you see life just from a different angle, your heart starts throbbing in a different way. Everything can be looked at with negative eyes, and there are people who will think about everything with negative eyes; they may become good critics, but they will be utter failures in life. There is a way to see life with positive eyes.

I was visiting a palace in Jaipur in India. Jaipur is one of the most beautiful cities in the world. The man who was creating it, Maharaja Jai Singh, wanted to defeat Paris, but he died before he could complete the project. So Jaipur has remained incomplete, but it has tremendous beauty. No city in India has that quality.

I was visiting his palace. His grandson, who is now in the place of the grandfather, said to me, "Please, don't take note if you see something incomplete in the palace."
I said, "What is the matter?"

He said, "My grandfather had a certain idea that nothing should be made complete, that then it has a certain kind of deadness; something should remain incomplete... possibilities for growth. And by coincidence he could not complete Jaipur. He died. And this was his whole life's philosophy; he never made anything complete. Something will be missing in it, and the people who come with negative eyes immediately see the missing thing. The whole palace is so beautiful, but their whole concern becomes concentrated on a small stone that is missing, and they become frustrated." Perhaps Maharaja Jai Singh had some understanding of life.

In life nothing is perfect, everything has some imperfection. Imperfection means life is still growing, evolution is still happening. The day everything is complete will be the worst day in existence, because that day everything will become dead. There will be no growth, no need for evolution; everything will be stuck. Don't look to the imperfections; look at so much beauty that surrounds small imperfections.

It is a change of perspective that brings patience to you. Then you know that everything is good, and everything is going to be better because it has been going on for centuries becoming better and better. There is no need to be worried about tomorrow; tomorrow is going to be better. The whole existence is involved in bettering itself. You have to be just a little patient, you should not be in a hurry. You should not ask that everything should be given to you right now.

Everything comes in its own time.
Everything comes when you are ripe.
Everything comes when you deserve it -- this is my experience.

In the last thirty years I have not felt, even for a single moment, any impatience, and I have seen that everything goes on becoming better. Existence itself is involved; we are part of it -- there is no need to worry. Even something that looks dark today may prove just the beginning of a new dawn. Before the dawn the night is the darkest.
Just watch life. Try to understand life and patience will come to you on its own accord.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

बघ माझी आठवण येते का?

मुसळधार पाऊस खिडकीत उभं राहून पहा
बघ माझी आठवण येते का?
हात लांबव, तळहातांवर झेल पावसाचं पाणी
इवलसं तळं होईल
बघ माझी आठवण येते का?

वार्‍याने उडणारे पावसाचे थेंब चेहर्‍यावर घे
डोळे मिटून घे, तल्लीन हो
नाहिच जाणवलं काही तर बाहेर पड, समुद्रावर ये
तो उधाणलेला असेलच, पाण्यात पाय बुडवून उभी रहा
वाळू सरकेल पायाखाली, बघ माझी आठवण येते का?

मग चालू लाग, पावसाच्या अगणित सुया टोचून घे
चालत रहा पाऊस थांबेपर्यत, तो थांबणार नाहिच, शेवटी घरी ये
साडी बदलू नकोस, केस पुसू नकोस, पुन्हा त्याच खिडकीत ये
आता नवर्‍याची वाट बघ, बघ माझी आठवण येते का?

दारावर बेल वाजेल, दार उघड, नवरा असेल
त्याच्या हातातली बॅग घे, रेनकोट तो स्वतःच काढ़ेल
तो विचारेल तूला तुझ्या भिजण्याचं कारण, तू म्हणं घर गळतयं
मग चहा कर, तूही घे
तो उठून पंकज उधास लावेल, तो तू बंद कर
किशोरीचं सहेलारे लाव, बघ माझी आठवण येते का?

मग रात्र होईल तो तुला कुशीत घेईल, म्हणेल तू मला आवडतेस
पण तुही तसचं म्हणं
विजांचा कडकडात होईल, ढ़गांचा गडगडाट होईल
तो त्या कुशीवर वळेल, त्याच्या पाठमोर्‍या शरीराकडे बघ
बघ माझी आठवण येते का?

यानंतर सताड डोळ्यांनी छप्पर पहायला विसरू नकोस
यानंतर बाहेरचा पाऊस नुसता ऐकण्याचा प्रयत्न कर
यानंतर उशीखाली सुरी घे, झोपी जाण्याचा प्रयत्न कर
येत्या पावसाळ्यात एक दिवसतरी, बघ माझी आठवण येते का?